Weddings, shows, and even art galleries usually serve alcohol. And, of course, your friends may want to go to bars, clubs, or other events where alcohol is one of the main attractions. Depending on your comfort level and the person asking, you might decide to offer a direct, truthful response. Here are some options:. So if you go to a place that serves alcohol, maybe you can immediately order a non-alcoholic drink.
Whether you have bottled water or a protein shake with you, keeping a drink in your hand can prevent people from offering you alcohol. You might even isolate yourself or hold back from having a good time—which will then reinforce your belief and others that being sober makes fun impossible. You might actually find that being sober is more enjoyable than you predicted. The bar or the same nightclub you used to frequent while drinking may be a trigger for you.
A few examples:. If you're in recovery and feel especially fragile or are craving alcohol even after you leave the environment, be sure to seek help. Call a trusted friend or family member or go to a meeting at a nearby support group. So make the most of the time you gain by doing something enjoyable or productive. Go for a jog, clean the house, or run errands. Then, take the rest of your day to enjoy your time. Having more time and energy might motivate you to continue abstaining from alcohol.
They might have fun exploring new places and trying new things with you. This may seem tough at first. You just have to find them. You might need to try new activities so that you can meet sober people, including:. And you might even find that you enjoy doing these types of things much more than activities that involve alcohol. Consider every sober outing an experiment. Learn from each experience.
The information you take away can help you continue creating your best life. Regardless of why you decide to change your drinking habits, socializing sober can feel scary. Why not try joining a sewing or bread making class or even learn a new language?
Signing up for a sporting challenge can be a great way to boost your motivation to exercise regularly, especially over winter. So explains Jonathan Turner, Head of Content at timeoutdoors. Like many during lockdown, you could try your hand at baking.
Please check your local restrictions to see if you can do this at the current times. It doesn't have to mean sweating it out on a boring treadmill. Most modern gyms offer a wide range of facilities and classes. For an hour or two at the cinema or theatre. A little way to cope with the daily drudgery of everyday; an addition to mundane nature of reality, not an addiction.
Everything in moderation! And I need some self moderation, some feeling regulation. Self medicated moderation in a bottle. Some extra to the ordinary… and why the hell not? Do I want to be talking to this person? This banal, anal, boring to the bone, dry conversation with this wet. I need some liquid inspiration, some magical stimulation that takes me up and away. Float me high as a kite. Right sizing myself to smaller, dimmer, dumber, diluted me. I can stand you, when I can barely stand.
Really, I would. Anything to keep drinking. Did I? If I had a problem, so did everyone around me because we all drank the same—some, even more than me. Is it any wonder that recovering alcoholics lose all their friends when they start recovery? Did I even like my friends? Did conversation matter or did the alcohol consumption make it easier to keep chatting, repeating, forgetting? Mind-numbing, fun times on repeat.
On a loop. So cool being a party girl. Always invited to things. All the good stuff that came with it—the dance moves, the greasy hangover food, the men. How many times did I have sober sex for the first time?
How many times did it matter to me? But it was all a conscious choice—while I was just-drunk. The blanket excuses alcohol provides. Walking in feels like coming home to heaven. A room full of alcoholic men. So many Dads back from the dead. I want to be here. It feels good with the others.
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